Feeling frustrated and sad.

I'm not sure what happened to all of our good momentum.  Everything on the first half of the adoption (home study, I-800A, LOI and PA) seemed to be on the 'early' side of the expected time frames.  Now we are on the back end and slowing down.  We are now over 3 weeks of waiting for our final I-800 approval, with 2 to 2.5 weeks being the average.  I emailed our Dept. of Homeland Security officer yesterday and inquired about our status.  Her reply was that it was being processed that same day.  I don't know why we're running so late.  I know it is mere days, but it all adds up.  And it's going to add up to an October travel date now.  Our early hopes of traveling in August were squashed, and now September has slipped away.  Matthew is entering a work of art into the Grand Rapids Art Prize competition in the end of September, so he is glad that he's going to be in town to install his artwork in the venue he has committed to.  But I'm not happy.  I am trying really hard to control my attitude, and to quit overanalyzing average wait times and what other family got their approval on which date.  But anyone that knows me knows that when I feel out of control I organize.  It's part of what I do for a living, and I do it well.  I've been addicted to the China Adopt Talk website, where all of the waiting families in the paperwork process for China communicate and we all keep track of our milestones on a (wonderful and quite large) spreadsheet.  I'm getting lapped by other families weekly.  What I fear most is that we will get delayed again because of the trade show going on near the US Consulate in Guangzhou, China from October 15-November 5.  That's where we will end up traveling to after picking Elliott up in Harbin, and where we will offically adopt him as our own before heading back to the United States. During the trade show, travel costs go up 2 to 3 times and we just can't afford the extra (few thousand) bucks.  If our travel dates fall in that time frame, we will most likely get slid into a November travel time.  I would never wish time away, especially warm and sunny summer days.  But I want to see some progress.  Soon.